on the wall… why can’t I see it all?
SELF-CONFIDENCE – SELF-ESTEEM – SELF-WORTH – SELF-LOVE – SELF-RESPECT
These are all words that are blasted in front of us on a daily basis – with social media becoming such a strong part of our world these things are becoming harder to incorporate into our every day lives. We see celebrities approaching these subjects – and while I think it’s great we are no longer afraid to talk about these issues – that’s just it – they’re still issues.
Media these days are posting “plus sized models” that to us are “normal” sized – whatever “normal” means – yet these magazines and Instagram photos are still photo-shopped which is easily forgotten. Leaving us wondering – why we can’t achieve this look or this outfit, etc. When the reasoning is actually quite simple – we don’t have personal trainers and personal chefs or millions of dollars.
Hell I’m writing it this all out as if I am able to push these things aside, yet I still catch myself wishing I looked like these celebrities and these girls on Instagram. I have days I feel pretty, days I feel awful, happy days and just plain shitty days. Days where just one little piece of hair can cause what appears to be the world ending. No matter how hard we try – appearances are always going to matter.
I get attempting to feel beautiful in your own skin – but that’s a lot harder than it sounds. I still scroll through Instagram wishing my skin was clearer, my legs skinnier, my stomach flatter but at then end of the day I’m not Kendall Jenner nor will I ever be, but I’m Bianca and I’m okay with that because I have a lot to offer.
However, being a blogger has actually helped me uncover some of these issues that I struggled with – even at the age 23. Finding something you’re passionate about and being able to share it with the world makes me feel strong, confident and down right bad ass. Do that – find something that makes you feel as bad ass as you are and everything else will come into play.
This is something I strive to work towards everyday – slowly but surely I’m learning how to look at myself in the mirror and see all the beautiful that is staring back. Don’t get me wrong I still have my days – but the most important thing you can do is remember you are beautiful in your own way and no one else can tell you other wise. Not to mention, we are our hardest critic – get yourself realizing how beautiful you are and no one else will matter.
And like anything – these things take time. Sometimes more time than we want, but we have to remember all the little things that make us who we are and if we can do that we just might have a chance. Do something little everyday for yourself – build yourself up find that niche that makes your feel empowered. For some it comes naturally and for others it might take some digging but don’t ever give up. Strive every day to become the woman you want to become and one day you’re going to look in the mirror and realize she was there all along.
So long story short – wear the outfits that make you feel beautiful, wear the amount of makeup that makes you feel flawless and take each day at a time. It’s okay to struggle with these things – but that’s just it, it’s a struggle. Do what you can that helps you maintain the balance between these issues and you’re one step closer to better understanding yourself.
Also, DON’T EVER BE AFRAID TO FLAUNT IT. Want to take a selfie? DO IT. Want to post it to Instagram? DO IT. YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL AND NO ONE CAN TELL YOU OTHER WISE.
Okay, I’m done.
HAPPY HUMP DAY SWEET HUMANS.